Archive for the ‘True Stories’ Category

INCOME TAX - SOCIAL SECURITY - WHAT A FRIGGIN’ JOKE

February 19, 2008

Check this out: I have a friend who is a few years older than me, and she decided to take an “early social security” She called me today almost in tears. Her husband earns what would now be classified as a “low middle class amount”. They have grown children. They
pay their dues.

She just picked up her income tax (prepared by an IRS savvy) office, and this is what she was told: “Your husband makes too much money and so they taxed 80% of your social security benefits!”

She said she swore and proclaimed that to do that is taxing that money TWICE. “I know,”
the woman replied, “I think it stinks, but there is nothing we can do about it. That is taxing you twice on the same money!”

So listen up, my friends, if you are in the group that will soon be able to collect what you paid into to all your working life - be prepared to be told, “BEND OVER, THIS WON’T TAKE LONG!” Be prepared to be disappointed AGAIN by our wonderful government! I know that sounds extreme, for me, but it made me mad too.

Our government donates BILLIONS to other countries (Pakistan alone gets $250 million a MONTH)….Individuals spend millions to get elected, and then millions for the party thereafter.

But if our hard working middle class has a small dream of getting a return for donating their entire lives being honorable and working-and not using the system, forget it!

You either have to be RICH or POOR. There is no room for in between and the hard working “in betweener’s” are biting the dust. Might as well give up and join the ranks of the poor who don’t pay for much of anything. No slam against those who REALLY are honorable and need it.

You know what? I don’t care which of the three main candidates gets elected - ANYBODY
has to be better than what we’ve seen in past years! We need change.

Oh by the way, are you familiar with “super delegates”? Another ridiculous thing our government does - check it out!

ADDENDUM to last post. My records were sent to a doctor who is NOT in my health care network. I do have some insurance, but if I didn’t, he doesn’t take cash. I ask about getting records and was told it would cost me a fee up front and 25 cents a page to get them. “The records belong to the doctor” I was told. EVEN if he disappears and doesn’t notify one person….now the doctor he sent the records to OWNS them for 10 years unless you buy them or have them requested to be mailed to another doctor.

B.S. Boy am I glad I get copies of my records each time I visit a doctor’s office. They
can keep those things for 10 years or do whatever else they want to do with them - I have a suggestion. :0

Now I will take a breath and step outside to “divert” my own attention to something I actually have some choice in….taking the dog for a walk!

THIS ISN’T FUNNY!

February 15, 2008

All of us need to see a doctor once in a while. If we have children, that happens for sure.
About 8 years ago I found a feminine MD whom I thought was wonderful. After 4 years of TRUSTING her, I called for an appointment one day and she had moved to Idaho. (This was the SECOND time my doctor left town without notice or warning. ) The first was also a woman who just closed the doors and left for India!

Needless to say, this second time I was not very happy. All my records had been sent to her former partner-a male physician. I paid the “first timer” initial visit to him, though I thought it not very nice. Therein he became my doctor. He has been a wonderful doctor until TODAY! I called to ask a question and was told: “the office closed permanently on the 7th.”

Stunned, I asked what happened. “Don’t know”, the operator replied, “Even his staff didn’t know.”

Most things don’t phase me, but this is pure and simple B.S. No notice, no chance to ask for records, NADA! Bye bye, gone, see ya later.

I asked where my records are and she said, “Oh they’ve been sent to another doctor. Here is his information.”

Of course he is all the way across town, I HAD NO CHOICE IN THE MATTER, and check this out- HE DOESN’T TAKE CASH!

After all, I am just a pheasant! On top of it I have to pay a “new client fee” if I even want to see him. Again, I am livid.

The thing is it is B.S. We PAY to trust our physician, and the least they could do is give a bit of notice and some choice in the matter.

HERE IS THE MAIN THING I AM SUGGESTING TO YOU. I had a little mama who was sharp as a tack. She told me ALWAYS keep a record of your visits. You may have to initially ask and sign a release form, but BE SURE TO GET YOUR RECORDS REGULARLY. At least this gives you options!

Now take a breath and try to relax. I am! BY THE WAY,

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY! Hug or kiss someone NOW - hug yourself! :)
Luckily, I did so, and I have all my records! This suggestion goes for you, your children, your parents, whomever…..We do have rights! We have the right to see what has been written about us, and the right to keep track of our treatment!

PLEASE RIGHT NOW, NEXT TIME SOMEONE GOES TO THE DOCTOR TELL THEM YOU WANT A COPY OF ALL YOUR RECORDS! Mine didn’t cost anything as I’ve done it each visit….I
don’t know about if you have to get them from the start.

Stay well and maybe you won’t need one of these “Practicing” physicians!

A senior moment

August 22, 2007

Someone who knows I write, asked me to post a short piece that she wrote. It is my pleasure to do so, and an eye opener for us all. I was happy to type it. Her handwriting was lovely. That is almost a lost art these days.
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It seems that the lymph nodes on the left side of my neck are always painful these days.
The doctor says it’s because they are “doing their job” - whatever that is. I don’t mind.

My left shoulder does ache after almost any work like weeding, shoveling, vacuuming or sweeping. Probably due to the dislocated shoulder from so many years ago. The one pounding my former husband bestowed on me. Or perhaps it’s from the near head
on collision when the old man crossed over on my side of the road. I was lucky then.
I don’t mind that much either.

Some days the ringing in my ears is so loud I can hear it over any other noise. Doesn’t
bother me too much except when it’s quiet and I am trying to sleep. It isn’t the kind of ringing that is conducive to lulling one to sleep. It’s a nuisance, but I don’t mind that too much either.

The floaters in my left eye might be increasing. I am fortunate to see quite well, except of course, I need my glasses to read. That condition happens to lots of people over 40, a majority statistically. But the floaters are strange more than anything. Little black spots that move when I look quickly up or down. I don’t see them all the time, but when I am looking at a blue sky they are obvious to me. I don’t mind very much.

Every once in a while that ankle I sprained while teaching physical education swells up and hurts like crazy. I probably did some extensive damage to it as I didn’t have any substitute teachers that year and I had to teach the same classes all day on that sprain. Now I just try to ice it and usually grab the ankle support to wear for the day. I really don’t like the pain, but it’s just one of many that are on the horizon, it seems.

The pain I am not very comfortable with is the chest pain. It’s been pretty consistent over the past months. My doctor says it’s acid reflex. I don’t think so. It’s a dull, but definite
pain. I don’t have “heartburn” as I used to have in the past. This is different.

I am experiencing other things that may be in conjunction with that pain. Often I can actually feel the pulsing of the blood in my hand and arm. My head pulses and it hurts on one side and then the other. I think it’s the blood passing by. I don’t know for sure, but I have lived in this body all my life, and am savvy to the way it feels.

The headaches have been consistent too. My husband says it’s almost every day.
I don’t think so, but more often than I like. Not being comfortable with these things is normal, I think.

This morning when I awoke my ellbow hurt. Didn’t hit it. Probably a bit of arthritis coming on. I noticed last week a bony knob on my index finger. I don’t remember it being there before. I can see the changes in my hands. The bones are become somewhat deformed, but not much yet. My veins have suddenly become the focus of a first glance, and not the long nails I still have when I haven’t broken them from working without gloves. These things don’t bother me too much either.

Oh, I almost forgot, I’ve turned up with the shingles! Pretty strange as I never had the chicken pox, but my children did. The doctor told me the virus lays dormant until after 40 and then starts raising hell. I am lucky as I don’t get them very often, though they are very irritating and itch at first. Then they break into an actual pox and as they heal (which takes a couple of weeks) there is a residual pain that is terrible. I’m told it gets worse with each year that passes. Still, I can deal with that.

Changes are what I can expect for the rest of my life. Not particularly good physical changes, but my mind is still sharp and I hope to keep it that way. I am working to keep the physical aspect as good as possible, but after all, this body has been around a while now.

Some folks are better than me. Others are not nearly as fortunate to have my good health.
I think the thing that is the hardest to accept is the careless attitude younger people have towards those of us who have lived long enough to have aged! It’s almost as if we are
guilty of some horrible crime. Hard to look at too. The worst of it is this group (and it can span from teens to early forties) often think because we are now considered “seniors”,
we have lost our intellect, our sense of humor, our sensual desires and our desire for child like play. We haven’t! So please don’t judge us for our age. You are looking at yourselves in the future !

Some VERY interesting facts!

August 12, 2007

I recently came across these facts and found them quite interesting…was familiar with some
of them, but not “specific” numbers. Hope you enjoy!

Did you know…..
1. Your heart beat about 2,649,024,000 times in your life if you live until 70?

2. Your vascular system pumps 50,000,000 of blood and oxygen in you live
until you are seventy.

3. People own over 75 million handguns in the USA alone.

4. The Bible is still the best selling book. Has sold 2,500,000,000 since
1815! That’s a lot of books.

5. Each person in the USA (in 1996) ate approximately 145.2 pounds of potatoes.

6. There are 60,000 miles of blood vessels in a human being.

7. An adult heart weighs only about 11 ounces and has the capacity to
work effectively for over 100 years.

8. In 1995 there were 960,592 people who died from cardiovascular disease. A huge portion of this number was from “preventable” causes.

9.We are a species wired for survival, yet a large percentage of us get in the habit of getting hooked on things that can literally kill us.

10. There are over 18 million people in the USA alone who have an addiction to alcohol.

FOSSILS CHALLENGE OLD EVOLUTION “THEORY”

August 9, 2007

I have never copied a story verbatim, but this I found very interesting.

WASHINGTON - Surprising research based on two African fossils suggests our family tree is more like a wayward bush with stubby branches, challenging what had been common thinking on how early humans evolved.

The discovery by Meave Leakey, a member of a famous family of paleontologists, shows that two species of early human ancestors lived at the same time in Kenya. That pokes holes in the chief theory of man’s early evolution — that one of those species evolved from the other.

And it further discredits that iconic illustration of human evolution that begins with a knuckle-dragging ape and ends with a briefcase-carrying man.

The old theory is that the first and oldest species in our family tree, Homo habilis, evolved into Homo erectus, which then became human, Homo sapiens. But Leakey’s find suggests those two earlier species lived side-by-side about 1.5 million years ago in parts of Kenya for at least half a million years. She and her research colleagues report the discovery in a paper published in Thursday’s journal Nature.

The paper is based on fossilized bones found in 2000. The complete skull of Homo erectus was found within walking distance of an upper jaw of Homo habilis, and both dated from the same general time period. That makes it unlikely that Homo erectus evolved from Homo habilis, researchers said.

It’s the equivalent of finding that your grandmother and great-grandmother were sisters rather than mother-daughter, said study co-author Fred Spoor, a professor of evolutionary anatomy at the University College in London.

The two species lived near each other, but probably didn’t interact, each having its own “ecological niche,” Spoor said. Homo habilis was likely more vegetarian while Homo erectus ate some meat, he said. Like chimps and apes, “they’d just avoid each other, they don’t feel comfortable in each other’s company,” he said.

There remains some still-undiscovered common ancestor that probably lived 2 million to 3 million years ago, a time that has not left much fossil record, Spoor said.

Overall what it paints for human evolution is a “chaotic kind of looking evolutionary tree rather than this heroic march that you see with the cartoons of an early ancestor evolving into some intermediate and eventually unto us,” Spoor said in a phone interview from a field office of the Koobi Fora Research Project in northern Kenya.

That old evolutionary cartoon, while popular with the general public, is just too simple and keeps getting revised, said Bill Kimbel, who praised the latest findings. He is science director of the Institute of Human Origins at Arizona State University and wasn’t part of the Leakey team.

“The more we know, the more complex the story gets,” he said. Scientists used to think Homo sapiens evolved from Neanderthals, he said. But now we know that both species lived during the same time period and that we did not come from Neanderthals.

Now a similar discovery applies further back in time.

Susan Anton, a New York University anthropologist and co-author of the Leakey work, said she expects anti-evolution proponents to seize on the new research, but said it would be a mistake to try to use the new work to show flaws in evolution theory.

“This is not questioning the idea at all of evolution; it is refining some of the specific points,” Anton said. “This is a great example of what science does and religion doesn’t do. It’s a continous self-testing process.”

For the past few years there has been growing doubt and debate about whether Homo habilis evolved into Homo erectus. One of the major proponents of the more linear, or ladder-like evolution that this evidence weakens, called Leakey’s findings important, but he wasn’t ready to concede defeat.

Dr. Bernard Wood, a surgeon-turned-professor of human origins at George Washington University, said in an e-mail Wednesday that “this is only a skirmish in the protracted ‘war’ between the people who like a bushy interpretation and those who like a more ladder-like interpretation of early human evolution.”

Leakey’s team spent seven years analyzing the fossils before announcing it was time to redraw the family tree — and rethink other ideas about human evolutionary history. That’s especially true of most immediate ancestor, Homo erectus.

Because the Homo erectus skull Leakey recovered was much smaller than others, scientists had to first prove that it was erectus and not another species nor a genetic freak. The jaw, probably from an 18- or 19-year-old female, was adult and showed no signs of malformation or genetic mutations, Spoor said. The scientists also know it isn’t Homo habilis from several distinct features on the jaw.

That caused researchers to re-examine the 30 other erectus skulls they have and the dozens of partial fossils. They realized that the females of that species are much smaller than the males — something different from modern man, but similar to other animals, said Anton. Scientists hadn’t looked carefully enough before to see that there was a distinct difference in males and females.

Difference in size between males and females seem to be related to monogamy, the researchers said. Primates that have same-sized males and females, such as gibbons, tend to be more monogamous. Species that are not monogamous, such as gorillas and baboons, have much bigger males.

This suggests that our ancestor Homo erectus reproduced with multiple partners.

The Homo habilis jaw was dated at 1.44 million years ago. That is the youngest ever found from a species that scientists originally figured died off somewhere between 1.7 and 2 million years ago, Spoor said. It enabled scientists to say that Homo erectus and Homo habilis lived at the same time.”

Still, my friends, we are talking about 1.44 million years ago. IT’S ALL THEORY! (Well, except of course, what I believe!) :) Have a beautiful day! By the way, the author of this article was Seth Borenstein, Associated Press Science Writer.

It’s time to buy my CD or BOOK :)

July 17, 2007

I promised I’d only advertise on this blog once a month - it’s been longer than that. If you need
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Air Travelers Be Aware

July 14, 2007

The first day of my trip I really did stand in line for 7 1/2 hours. No one from the airlines told anyone in line what the problem was and why so many flights were canceled.

As I stood at the end of the line, I was comforted by the knowledge I teach stress management. I
knew this would test me, and that I would rise above the situation. Phew! So many people and such strong stress vibrations early in the day already permeating the air.

I immediately called the airlines and stuck out waiting on the cell for almost an hour. When I finally got through I was given no reason WHY flights were canceled, but found that after the representative checked every other airline, I would not be able to flight out until the next morning.

I grabbed a flight and a seat. Still it was necessary to stand in line all day to confirm the flight and get my ticket. As the hours passed I was able to share some “stress management techniques” with many people in line. I actually taught breathing and tried to share positive thoughts and affirmations. In doing so, it helped me too.
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At the 6th hour in line many people began to sit down and take turns running to get food or drink.
Everyone was exhausted, but to the credit of these hundreds of people, security was called only once to calm a man down.

Towards the end of the day I was about the 20th in line and one of the agents waved me to his counter. I don’t know why, but he picked me and another lady out of the line and said he would
help us.

She was not so fortunate as I was. My daughter lives in San Francisco and so I spent the night with her. This lady had a thick accent (not sure from what country). He told her she would not be able to fly out until Saturday. She began to cry and I tried to comfort her and put my arm around her. She was grateful and pulled herself together a bit.

Anyway, she accepted the flight and left to go to the restroom. I had already made a reservation earlier and so I just needed a ticket and confirmation. I looked for her as I wanted to take her with me to my daughter’s place and help her, but she was gone….

So here is the deal. BE PREPARED. Once you are checked through security, make sure you buy a container of water to carry with you. Also, bring nuts, health bars, fruit, whatever you can keep with you to snack on if you need it. Wear comfortable shoes, and don’t wear a dress! I had a skirt and blouse on and there was no way I could sit on the floor and maintain being a lady. The skirt was too short. So I stood all day.

Be kind to one another if you find yourself in this position. I was the first to get through to the airlines and several women asked if I would keep the rep on the line so they could talk directly without waiting any longer. Of course that was fine with me.

There were two men in line trying to get home to Texas to flooded homes, one woman who’d been trapped on that American Airlines for 10 hours, children of all ages, and all kinds of different people. I was proud to be a human that day!

There is still a fine pulling together of people in tough situations. Hearts were open. We rather became family….even exchanging emails and cell phone numbers. So if something like this happens to you, just remember:

TAKE A BREATH. CIRCUMSTANCES HAPPEN THAT WE HAVE NO CONTROL OVER - BUT WE ALWAYS HAVE THE CHOICE ON HOW WE RESPOND! Keep your spirits up and keep in mind,
YOU can make a difference to yourself and others by your actions.

Alli

June 20, 2007

If you read that article posted on the miracle diet drug, you might want to check out my thoughts on it (or not:). I’ve been a personal trainer and health consultant for 20+ years. Check out the article I posted on June 13th entitled “Be careful about this over the counter drug” (or something like that:). I concur with the thoughts not to mess around with it!

http://stress-management-magic.blogspot.com/

The very best way to get your body in shape is the old fashioned way - eat a bit less, move, and drink lots of water (water weight is not fat weight) - actually helps to digest and keep your body working optimally. You don’t have to kill yourself by exercising hours either! Cut out a couple hundred calories a day, CONSISTENTLY walk or workout MINIMUM three days a week - as little as 30 minutes a day. EXERCISE your patience and remember: if you are doing the right things for your body it is a GUARANTEED win-win situation. This is the physiology of the body!

Have a fantastic day!

Male Climacteric

June 19, 2007

Hey guys (around age 35 +) notice ANY of these symptoms?

* Decreased mental quickness and sharpness
* Decreased energy, strength and endurance
* Less desire for activity and exercise
* Decreased muscle and increased body fat
* Mild to moderate depression and irritability
* Depression and/or loss of eagerness and enthusiasm for daily life
* Decreased sex drive
* Decreased sexual function and/or sensitivity

Before I continue I want to clarify something. This information is not to belittle or injury anyone! It is not shameful to experience NORMAL physiological changes- if we are lucky enough to age!

We’ve all heard of the menopause happening in women, but not too many of us have heard about a man’s challenge in facing this time.

All women hear is that men are scoundrels, screwed up, or just a mess all together. The reasons behind this (in most cases) are real, and they can be helped. That is why I want to share this with you.

The most happy men and women I know have “understanding” of each
other’s physical challenges. I say challenges because there is such a nasty misnomer about so many of the natural changes men and women see in a lifetime. Knowledge is power, and I hope to empower you with the means to greater understanding, patience and peace

For women, it is the menopause, and for men it is “climacteric” (or andropause) , the corresponding time in the life of men 35 and older. The word climacteric comes from the Greek word klimakter, which means literally a rung of a ladder, or figuratively a critical point.

Climacteric is the l physiological process that marks the end of maturation and the beginning of new stages in life. It’s defining point normally takes place without any external influences. The changes in personality and a man’s actions often reflect a decline in male hormones. There is life after the climacteric period!

There are some who feel that hormone replacement therapy helps. The body declines in testosterone, thyroid, human growth hormone, and DHEA. I also TRULY BELIEVE that when people (male or female) are aware
of what is happening to their bodies, it is much easier to find a plan
to help the scenario.

When I entered the menopause , younger than most at 34, my mama had told me all about it. She swore that much of it was “placed” in our heads by well meaning authorities that assume everyone will experience the same symptoms and problems. This is simply NOT TRUE!

We are all different, have different background, genes, health histories,
and face these things individually. I truly believe in the power of mind over matter, and know that the way we tackle a challenge depends on our mental state.

I knew a fellow once who was hurt in an accident. He kept thinking, “I’m really hurt. I won’t heal.” The doctor’s couldn’t find anything and attributed it to possible nerve damage. I think he “thought himself” permanently disabled, and is this way after 20 years.

I was in a serious accident and was told I wouldn’t heal and do the same work. Well, I believe in prayer, but I also refused to believe that I would be permanently kept from being me. It took time, but gratefully, everything healed and I kept on doing what I do!

Back to you guys. Don’t think, “I am getting old” , “there is nothing I can do, etc.” BS. Start thinking in positive terms and realizing that there are hormone treatments, natural therapies, and mind over matter works, if you work at it!

Besides, most older guys I know haven’t aged badly at all. In fact, it seems for men, that most men age beautifully and are still sexy and handsome - gray hair and all.

JUST BE AWARE THAT CHANGES YOU MAY BE FEELING MAY NOT BE BOREDOM IN A RELATIONSHIP, BEING WEARY OF A JOB, WANTING TO MOVE OR CHANGE SOMETHING……..You may simply be going through something that is very natural and happens to most men at this point in their life. Chin up! Knowledge is power!

As for the women folk, I think we need to keep these things in mind and be supportive of the guys….just like I hope they will be for us!

Happy Father’s Day for all you guys out there that take it seriously!

June 17, 2007

There are a lot of you guys out there who REALLY deserve special accolades for the work you are doing as Dads! Being a parent is the toughest job in the world, and being a good dad requires so much dedication and unconditional love!

I was blessed with a great father who loved me no matter what I did! He had a wonderful sense of humor and would fight to the death for me in necessary.

This was daddy. He worked on wooden oil wells, born in Taft - an oil town. He wild catted wells when I was a kid and his last job was as an oilfield consultant. NO. He didn’t own any of the oil he found, but he
made me proud because of all his hard work. I used to go out on the rigs with him, and to this day I love the smell of diesel and oil and don’t mind getting dirty at all!
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I remember one time when I had gone through a nasty divorce and my ex-husband was stalking me. Dad
and I went to the grocery store. When we got out to the car dad pulled one of those grocery dividers - you know, the hard plastic ones - out of his sleeve. I said what in the world is that doing up your sleeve dad. His response: “Well, I may be 65, but if that SOB tries to put a hand on you, baby, this is my “equalizer”. What a guy. He’d have done it too!

My dad was the first example of what makes up a good man. I so admired him, and I actually believe that
the love of my life has many of my daddy’s qualities. To a son, a good father means the opportunity for a good life! He shows his sons how to be a real man, how to treat a woman, and how to guide his children
to direct their talents and explore their intellects.

So for all you guys who muster extra patience, all the money in the world, understanding, dedication, an open mind, actually a huge portion of your lives - GOD BLESS YOU ONE AND ALL!