Abortion

This will be the first really controversial thing I have written, but I simply must address this issue. Over a few days (or however long it takes) I am going to post a true story
about abortions - an inside look from a position of working in a women’s clinic for 6 months and seeing over 600 abortions - and why,I feel, we must allow them.

My husband heard on the news this morning that the government is contemplating a law that will pay $500.00 to a woman who opts not to have an abortion. That is so unbelievable I could almost scream. The cost of raising one child almost 30 years ago was over $100,000.00 a year. I can only imagine what the cost is today.

I will clarify my beliefs to anyone who asks me. I am a Christian and a devout one, though my own personal beliefs are a part of what I call “personal property” (that’s another subject). What I aim to do by publishing this true story is to perhaps open eyes and minds to a more realistic truth about abortion.

During the time the story was written, everyone outside the clinic was screaming “baby killers, murderers, etc.” . They were offered a contract entitled “Declined Abortion Contract” to sign. If a woman opted NOT to have an abortion, the individual would sign a contract offering financial support for the woman and child, or babysitting help, grandparent volunteers, community helpers, ANYTHING concrete to give a hand to the mother and child.

There were many options to offer help - all a person needed to do was sign a contract reiterating the help (EVEN TEMPORARY) that could make it POSSIBLE for a woman to have the child. The terms weren’t huge-any help would have been accepted.

Not one person would put it on paper that they were willing to do anything to assist the mother and child. The only thing they were willing to do was to yell and scream and belittle the women who needed help.

As I begin to publish this true story, put your daughter in the place of one of these young women. Would you choose the life of an unborn fetus over that of your own child? What if she had been violently raped? There are so many factors to consider in this debate and that is only two.

I also have an opinion about late term pregnancies and abortion - that’s another time. I am not trying to stir a boiling pot - only want to put out there to YOU READERS who have intellect and heart - a different perspective.

I will not be posting for a few days as I will be out of town. I return on Tuesday and hope to begin to publish this story then. Until then, be true to your heart. True to your own convictions. Be respectful of those who believe differently than you do. Avert war between us on a one to one level by doing these things.

M & M forever

For the Guys: How to be the man of a woman’s dreams

Hey guys - if you want to have a woman who still serves you coffee and breakfast in bed on the weekends , one who would put her body between you and a bullet, or kick the crap out of someone in your defense, one who still can’t wait to kiss and grab you and have wonderful and wild sex with you…….then you need to pay attention to the next few paragraphs.

The guy who has this love and devotion, a love that is enlarged, still so passionate, and ever enduring, is my husband! This is after 19 years of marriage! He is a man among men and deserves the best I can give in return for all he has done for me. It’s our wedding anniversary so I want to pay him tribute and perhaps help one of you guys out there get the “good stuff” from your woman.

Here are a few of the things he’s done to win and keep me loving my relationship with him.

1. He told me before we married: “I will never raise my hand to you, nor my voice. I will never let you down.” It sounded great but I’d been stung before. Guess what? He is a man of his word. I had been hit before and it’s never the right thing for EITHER partner to use physical force.

2. He was (and is) patient and stable . Even when I was trying to heal scars of old, he didn’t take my words or actions personally. He simply said, “I don’t think this has anything to do with us, but I understand you’ve been hurt before.” Then he would take me in his arms and quietly hold me. Ummmmmm, good stuff.

3. He won’t fight. He NEVER verbally abuses me with his words if we
disagree about something. That verbal abuse can hurt more than physical abuse. It takes decades to heal. (Not to say he hasn’t punched
a door or two when his temper had been tested to the limit.)

4. He supports whatever I want to do. No matter how far out or crazy it seems, he is there to say, “Whatever you want to do honey. It’s okay with me. I support you 100%.” When he feels strongly about something he will voice his thoughts, but not give me orders about it.
I listen. I have received his respect for my intelligence, and he has
mine absolutely for sure! He’ll try new activites I like - in turn, I
try stuff he enjoys.

5. He has taught me some things about men. For instance, when an argument is over for a guy - it’s over. Women like to drag things out, and then think about it and go over it again and again. I don’t do that any more. When it’s over - it’s over.

6. He taught me that it’s okay if he doesn’t listen to everything I say.
I can’t even do that. He has the ability to watch television and listen at the same time - that’s okay with me because if I need answers - off goes the television and he’s there to really listen.

I think the most important things he’s done for me is to not be jealous and try to put me into a box. He has been there for my needs. He has never cheated on me, nor played the flirty game. For me that was critical. (By the way - he is truly a man, and hasn’t ever been a “self-
fish lover!”)

Women always love too much, and often we love the wrong guys. After a time the “impression” stage ends and some guys fall into old habits and take their woman for granted. But when a guy comes into a woman’s life that is exactly who he declares he is - one who stands up and commits 100% - then what happens is the woman falls in love with him over and over again…..and there is never enough time for her to
do all the wonderful things for him that she would like to do!

Addendum a walk by the creek

SHAME ON ME! I have been thinking about it all day. Anyone can complain and
point out the flaws of others. What I should have done was pick up the cans!

I could justify I didn’t have a bag to put them in, but I am a clever woman, I could have used my shirt, or something.

Instead I just left them after taking a photo.
Again, shame on me. I WILL have a trash bag with me next time and instead of complaining, I will actually do something to change the problem.

A walk by a creek

Shame on you - whomever you are! We went to the mountains and walked deep in the woods. Heard a rushing creek and walked down to it. Obviously someone else enjoyed it too. They just neglected to pick up their trash before they left. Shame on the pigs who ruin it for the rest of us!

A wise man once said:

“We must all bite our tongues occasionally. When personal choice
and the good of the family is at stake, however, keep in mind,
if we bite our tongues too often, we may wind up biting ourselves in the ass.”
Author Unknown

The anatomical juxtaposition of two orbicularis oris muscles in a state of contraction

It’s a kiss! And……beyond the pure joy of kissing, there is published research that states that each passionate kiss burns between 6 and 12 calories, depending upon the level of enthusiasm.

“Each kiss placed and received buns an average of 9 calories.” At an average of three kisses a day (of course that means EVERY DAY) that amounts to burning OVER 9,000 a year. That means three pounds of weight loss!

So not only is kissing soooooooooooooo good, it’s a great way to loose weight!

Start today and get in the habit of sharing at least three kisses every day! Kiss your mate, your partner, your children, your mama or dad, your grandma or grandpa, an aunt or uncle, a friend, or even a puppy!

:) Play today!

Don’t Have tunnel vision…

…..unless it’s looking through a tunnel while kayaking a river you’ve not been on before. We live our lives in little boxes often times. Get up, go to work or school, come home, get on the computer or watch television, and go to bed.

That is of course, not everyone’s routine, but you get the idea. We often feel we are trapped to a certain HABITUAL ritual of life. Break out of the box.

Whether caused by global warming (a fear for sure) or not, spring is early for many. Take advantage of the weekend coming up. Do something out of the ordinary. Remember this is the TIME of your life - the moments are the only time you have, so find something new to do, a new place to go, whatever - just stretch your imagination, if only for a few hours! This is your life. You have a right to enjoy some of it!

Grab the kids, your honey, or hug yourself and take a hike and enjoy the fresh air! Time is fleeting and there is still a beautiful world out there somewhere.

Find it and REST and REGENERATE, please